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Calming ways to help your family manage stress

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In this article, you’ll find answers to questions like:

1. How to ease stress?
2. How to self-soothe?
3. Who can help?

There are many calming options to explore with children of all ages — and also for yourself. Let’s face it: Your stressed child can make you stressed.

Parents can help pre-teens and teens identify stressful triggers at school, says Amy Simpson, former executive director of Boys Town South Florida, an agency funded by Children’s Services Council.


“Ask what bothers them most — being called on to read in front of the class, taking tests, or deciding where to sit at lunch?” Simpson says. “Next, prepare your child by practicing — taking a deep breath, introducing himself or herself to a potential friend, or talking in front of an audience — so they are ready when the real situation arises. For homework, have them prioritize their time and decide what’s most important for effective time management.”

Just like us, the children we love may get angry, upset or frustrated when things don’t go their way. It’s important that people of all ages learn foundational calming skills to foster positive and healthy relationships for a lifetime. Even the most low-key parents need help managing family stress at times.


“Deep breathing, counting backward, squeezing a stress ball, applying hand lotion, excusing oneself to the bathroom, washing the face, and walking away to a quiet place can all be very calming activities for parents and adult caregivers,” says Deborah Newell, Triple P (Positive Parenting Program) director for Community Partners’ Parent-Child Center in Riviera Beach, a program funded by Children’s Services Council.

“Relax,” a book by Catherine O'Neill and Toni Goffe, is filled with fun ways to teach children to calm themselves and offers advice on where to start with role-playing, suggests Renée E. Layman, chief executive officer for the Center for Child Counseling in Palm Beach Gardens, an agency funded by Children’s Services Council.


Does the drama worry you? Do you think your teen is overreacting? If you're concerned your teen's behavior is causing strife at home, there is help. The Children’s Behavioral Health Collaborative, funded through a grant from Palm Beach County’s Community Services Department, includes five local organizations that provide a variety of compassionate outpatient services to children of all ages, as well as counseling for parents. Click here to learn more or call 561-366-9400.

You can also reach out to Triple P programs, which are free and focus on positive parenting and family strengthening. Triple P, funded by Children's Services Council of Palm Beach County, is provided by:


• Deborah Newell, Triple P program director, Parent-Child Center
• Renée Layman, chief executive officer, Center for Child Counseling
• Amy Simpson, former executive director, Boys Town South Florida
Children's Behavioral Health Collaborative

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