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Your child’s bad habits usually nothing to fear

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In this article, you’ll find answers to questions like:

1. Is it just a phase?
2. When to intervene?
3. How to break bad habits?

Is your child still wetting the bed?

Well, don’t worry about it too much, says Chris McGinnis, a psychologist with Boys Town South Florida. 

Ten percent of children still wet the bed at age 10. “All bed-wetting resolves on its own over time, so the question is when is the family ready to address it?” he says.

Habits such as bed-wetting and whining seem like a rite of passage, though it’s perplexing for parents.

1. IS IT JUST A PHASE?

“Most of the time, these behaviors are just phases or habits — not serious medical problems —and the child typically outgrows them,” says Kathryn Tancig, program director of Healthy Families Palm Beach.

However, Tancig advises concerned parents to contact their pediatrician. “Yelling, calling attention to the habit and punishment do not usually work to stop the behavior, but praising the absence of the behavior, using positive rewards and patience are likely to help,” she says. 

2. WHEN TO INTERVENE?

McGinnis agrees these habits don’t necessarily signal something is wrong. However, it’s time to act if your children start hurting themselves. And sometimes a behavior can be indicative of a greater issue, such as neurodevelopmental disorder.

Don’t worry about thumb-sucking until age 5, says McGinnis, who echoes Tancig on providing positive reinforcement by praising the child when they’re not engaged in the habit. “It can be a powerful behavioral shaping tool,” he says.

Quality sleep is the key, he says. It boosts cooperation and overall functioning. “Once we help improve sleep and cooperation, then we move on to other concerns like picky eating, problems with the homework routine, anxiety, bad habits, bed-wetting and others,” he says.

3. HOW TO BREAK BAD HABITS?

  • Calmly explain what you don't like about the behavior and why. This approach can be used to help increase awareness of the problem. Say something like, "I don't like it when you bite your nails. It doesn't look nice. Could you try to stop doing that?" The next time it happens, don't scold or lecture. Punishment, ridicule or criticism could have the opposite effect by causing the behavior to increase.
  • Involve your child in the process of breaking the habit. If your child is crying from being mocked over a habit, understand this is a way of asking for help. Parents can ask their children what they think they could do to stop the habit or if they want to stop the habit. Brainstorm ways to break the habit together.
  • Suggest alternative behaviors. For example, if your child is a nail-biter, say, "Let's wiggle our fingers," instead of "Don't bite your nails." This will increase awareness of the habit and may serve as a reminder. To occupy your child's attention, provide a distraction, such as helping you in the kitchen or working on a craft.
  • Reward and praise self-control. For example, allow your little girl to use nail polish if she lets her nails grow instead of biting them off. Giving stickers or a small prize is another way to reinforce praise.
  • Be consistent in rewarding good behavior. If you fail to notice good behavior, it will disappear over time. The new, positive habit must be firmly established before the old one will disappear.
  • Be patient. It takes time for the alternative behavior to replace the bad one. For the best success, motivate your children to break the habit.

SOURCES:
• Dr. Chris McGinnis, psychologist, Boys Town South Florida
• Kathy Tancig, Healthy Families program director, Families First of Palm Beach County
• KidsHealth.org

 

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