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My child's not keeping up with other kids! What should I do?

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In this article, you will find answers to questions like:

  1. What's normal for ages 5-8?
  2. Should I trust my instinct?
  3. What local groups can help?

1. WHAT'S NORMAL FOR AGES 5-8?

For example, by age 5, children can copy patterns, print some letters, cut with safety scissors, recall parts of a story, want to please their friends, and sing and dance around.

By ages 6 to 8, children’s vocabulary can increase to about 2,000 words or more,   according to About Kids Health website.

They’ll learn their left and right, begin to reason (and argue) using words like “why” and “because.” They’ll develop a longer attention span, understand fractions and the concept of space, understand money and learn how to tell time. They can also enjoy reading books on their own.

2. SHOULD I TRUST MY INSTINCT?

If you notice your child isn’t doing things other children his or her age are doing, trust your judgement and alert your child’s doctor as soon as possible.

You can also take action on your own. Observe your child. If you notice over time that your child is consistently not keeping up with their friends, you can reach out for help in the community.

“People often think it’s bad behavior or bad parenting,” says Sharon Alexander of Unicorn Children’s Foundation in Boca Raton. “There are programs for children from birth, with no costs to the family. I’m always telling families to err on the side of caution.”

If there is a delay, early intervention can often help a child catch up to his or her peers.

3. WHAT LOCAL GROUPS CAN HELP?

For example, you can call the free 211 HelpLine and ask for Help Me Grow or the Special Needs Hotline. The 211 specialist will ask you questions and usually can find you help within 24 hours. The 211 specialist also will call you back in a few weeks to check on you.

“We don’t just give them a phone number and say, ‘Have a nice life,’ ” says Randee Gabriel, children and family services manager of 211 Palm Beach/Treasure Coast. “We call them up. One of the main reasons parents don’t come to an appointment is that they don’t know why it’s important. They may be thinking, ‘I make $7.50 an hour and if I miss five hours of work, I don’t get to buy groceries this week.’ So we tell them why it’s important to go. They know they have a support person.”

Families often have several problems to solve, in fact. The 211 specialists start by helping them keep a roof over their heads, find food pantries and secure help paying the electric bill, if needed. They also ask every caller if they have young children and if they are having any problems at school or home.

“I say to them, we’re free, we’re confidential, and there may be resources out there that we can help them tap into,” says Jennifer Harris, a special needs advocate for 211.

The Palm Beach County School District also offers help for children. Start with your child’s teacher and your school’s guidance counselor. If you need additional information or still have concerns, you can reach out to the district’s Exceptional Student Education department.

Whatever your concern as a parent, don’t panic. Palm Beach County has resources that can help.

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