It may be hard to imagine your middle schooler abusing drugs or alcohol. However, the evening news warns about the latest designer drugs, while our social media feed is flooded with nightmare stories about teenage binge drinking.
Then there’s good, old-fashioned peer pressure that can really kick into gear in middle school.
“Conversations need to be early, often and age appropriate,” says Jan Cairnes, director of Prevention Services for the Hanley Foundation in West Palm Beach. “The easiest message to give children of all ages is to model appropriate drinking behavior.
For example, have a glass of wine with dinner, not a bottle; have a beer, not a six-pack.”
Empower younger teens to make their own decisions, even if it’s picking out clothes or choosing what to make for dinner. Encouraging your children to be independent thinkers can help them stay stronger later in challenging peer situations.
It’s best to speak in an age-appropriate manner, suggests Jeff Kadel, executive director of the Palm Beach County Substance Awareness Coalition in Boynton Beach.
Partnership for Drug-Free Kids, based in New York City, offers dialogue ideas for parents to engage children of all ages.
It’s essential to maintain a close relationship with your child during the teen years, Kadel says.
“You’ll face less conflict when it comes to monitoring their behavior and social life,” he says. “Studies show that families who argue, fight and treat each other badly and parents who are degrading and use physical punishment have unsupportive child relationships and increase the risk for drug and alcohol use.”
The Hanley Foundation also wants parents to share the good news with their children that most children in our area don’t drink.
“In fact, 75 percent of Palm Beach County youth do not drink,” Cairnes says. “Our county goal is to increase the percent of non-drinkers to 80 percent by 2018. Parents can support this goal by sharing this information with others. Acknowledging that trends are always changing is a great first step to staying informed.”
To address new designer drugs such as Flakka, which has been widely talked about recently in South Florida, the Palm Beach County Substance Awareness Coalition created a website, dontbeaguineapig.com.
“It illustrates the mystery ingredients of these new drugs, emphasizing you have a lot to live for. You don’t know what these drugs may do to you, so don’t be a guinea pig,” Kadel says.
Find help when needed
Self-assessment tools are an excellent start for finding help. The Mental Health Association of Palm Beach County offers a free alcohol or substance-use screening at mhapbc.org. Pam Gionfriddo, former chief executive officer, encourages individuals to call 561-801-HELP (4357) if the screening indicates a problem. Individuals also can make an appointment to take the screening in person.
If your child appears to be under the influence of a controlled substance, call 911 or go to the emergency room. Immediate medical attention can lower the risk of overdose or long-term side effects that could impact their well-being.
If you suspect your child may be using a controlled substance from time to time, call the 211 HelpLine or visit 211palmbeach.org. This free service can direct you to resources and programs, depending on your situation.
Four things to consider if you think your child is using drugs or alcohol:
1. Trust your instincts
2. Educate yourself
3. Don’t take it personally
4. Get professional help
SOURCE: Palm Beach County Substance Awareness Coalition
• Jan Cairnes, director of Prevention Services, Hanley Foundation
• Jeff Kadel, executive director, Palm Beach County Substance Awareness Coalition
• Pam Gionfriddo, former chief executive officer, Mental Health Association of Palm Beach County
• 211 Palm Beach/Treasure Coast
• Partnership for Drug Free Kids